Many of us couldn’t care less if a friend, a family member or our kids were gay. WE were the only people who could NOT be gay. That is internalized homophobia in a nutshell.Read More
THEN when I hit fifty I totally disappeared. I am not sure when I became invisible, I didn’t want to be invisible. it just happened. No glances my way, no smiles and often times I would notice the “look right through me” stare from men.Read More
Saying to myself, “I can’t do this, I can’t do this, I can’t do this, I can’t be gay, I can’t be gay, I can’t change my life, I have a husband, children, career, I can’t be gay.” In this beautiful place of worship, God asked me to finally acknowledge who I was created to be, perfectly in God’s image. I could not because it was too complicated, too hard, too painful, too jarring. In reality, it was fear, cold hard naked fear, that had left me paralyzed in a heterosexual normative that I did not fit.
In a nanosecond, the answer popped into my head. “I think I am gay.” I will forever remember the time between when the thought became the spoken as I stared off into space. I thought about the previous ten years when I had made various attempts to come out.Read More